This is something I have learned just recently. I have always prided myself as being someone that keeps going and doesn't give up.....someone that would rather keep trying than fail. This can be a really admirable quality, especially when you have the ability. Unfortunately, as I've learned recently, sometimes, that same admirable quality can also be something that hurts us.
For someone like me, I've spent my entire life in survival mode and have learned that if you don't keep going, never giving up, always holding on, you're not considered successful. What happens when you keep holding on to the notion that you have to keep going? Or striving for more? Or maybe you keep holding on to the idea that if you stop to take a breath everything in your life is just going to fall apart? That use to be me a couple of years ago. I was running at high speed in my job and at home just trying to get as many things done as possible while trying to live up to the idea that I have to be a superwoman or I'm a failure. Then I ran straight into a wall that would change my view forever.
It took some time to really grasp the concept that holding onto the idea of being a superwoman was hurting me more than helping. Even now, my instincts tell me that I need to be that superwoman I've held in my head for so long or I'm a failure. But you know what? It's a blessing that I developed some pretty severe health issues, because I am learning that letting go of that concept is bringing more to my life than holding onto that superwoman idea. It definitely hasn't been easy to let go of the life that I was so use to. In fact, it's been quite a journey getting here, but I have to tell you that it is so very worth it. My whole life has changed, and doors have opened up for me that would not have been there in my old life. I learned alot about myself in the hours that I have spent at home writing, talking to friends and family, reading, and learning about the illnesses I have developed. I have been able to spend quality time with my children that was missing when I was living life on high speed trying to fit everything in. Time with my husband has been more relaxed, which has brought us even closer than were already were. I'm able to help family members nearby if something comes up, which has made those relationships even better. I have more time to help my kids with school when it's needed. On a nice day I can get out and spend time on my hobby of photography, or even just meditate. Quite honestly, all of these things have added so much value to my life that I wish everyone could do it!
Now, I know that not everyone has the means to go in the direction I have gone in, but are there things in your life that you keep doing, even though it doesn't add anything of value to your life? Taking stock of what's really important to you, then making the decision to let some things go, may be just the solution you're looking for. Life is way to short to be stuck in something that isn't working for you. And if you're not careful, the extreme stress of continuing to hold onto whatever isn't working can really put a toll on your body, which unfortunately I have witnessed first hand. Life is a journey that has to be taken one day or even one minute at a time, not racing towards the finish line as I once believed. For me, superwoman no longer exists and I couldn't be happier!
What changes have you made that have helped you let go of that superwoman notion so many of us have? What do you find the most difficult to let go of?